Online Dating Isn't For Everyone!

Romantic relationships play a big part in our physical, social and emotional wellbeing, there is a security associated with being in one. This is why we singles are seeking romantic relationships or feel unhappy without one. Loneliness can resort to online dating which is an easy way to connect with a large number of potential matches. Although it is not as glamorous as it appears, you want to be cautious when dating online.

WE MAKE BAD DECISIONS

Let's be honest, who has spent hours browsing potential matches on their dating apps?

We sure have!

Yes sure, it's a great way to kill time but there are literally way too many fish in the sea today. Not only is one site flooded with singles, we usually are on multiple platforms; bumble, tinder, match etc. The luxury of having options seems appealing but in reality when faced to make a decision with a large number of prospects we tend to make erroneous decisions, aka bad ones.

WRONG IMPRESSIONS

We’ve all met someone who has given us an initial ‘vibe’ or left a first impression on us, good or bad.

Meeting people face to face inspires more genuine interactions as it is much easier to form an impression. We can determine the other person's demeanour by observing behavioural characteristics like postures, smile, tone of voice exc.

The issue with online dating profiles is they tend to be fairly superficial with their best pictures and a tad bit of impressive information such as their career status. Generally, potential matches are not being represented as a whole, anyone can be whoever they want to be online...

MATCHING DOESN’T WORK

How many of you have actually had a successful relationship result from online dating?

We know it happens, my brother and his girlfriend met on Tinder and have now been together for 3 year. What we’ve learned is that it's simply not for everyone. A lot of these apps today are strictly based on geological location which really has nothing to do with compatibility. Others are focused on one very specific commonality such as religion or economic status.

As mentioned before, we do all know people are happy to miss advertise themselves to get matches.

MOST OVER SHARE

Before a face to face meeting usually online chatting lasts for a couple of weeks as you're trying to feel each other out. Most of the time we act ‘hyperpersonal’ meaning we disclose information more readily for it is easier to do behind the screen. This can have pros and cons...

Expectations are raised before a face to face meeting, when we may become disappointed, for we’ve created this illusion of liking someone more than they might actually.

Who’s felt extremely misled after a first date?

NOT A QUICK FIX

People use online dating sites and apps for one reason, to meet people. Not only do we want to meet someone we want to meet them ASAP are we right?

When making the decision to get online we naturally want it to happen immediately, especially if you are paying for it. Once committed to online dating you really do spend a lot of time invested in it as well, on average singles are spending 12 hours a week online., some not getting a single match. At a speed dating event you are guaranteed to meet people and engage in a conversation. Give it a try!

RARELY A SECOND DATE

How many first dates have you been on with people you’ve met online?

Most sites now are based on the geographical location which really isn’t a strong predictor of a sustainable relationship. Yes, this makes it very convenient for physically meet but to be successful you have to be willing and open. Many people struggle with this once meeting face to face. Either singles are faced with no shows, people not being who they seem or even rude and pushy.

Also, these sites don’t really want us to to meet our person, they want us to come back to spend more time and money! Don’t meet a match at a Soul Sidekick event, the next one is on us!

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